I have sought the guidance of the Geek and there is hope for the family bar after all…Apparently I need first to ditch hubby number one and find a more…uh…economically viable on. I KNEW I was missing a big part of the economic equation that made this job worth it. The solution is so simple. Thanks GL and happy 2010.
Archive for December, 2009
A Message of Optimism For 2010
Posted in public funding, tagged family law, funny, odd or interesting, public funding on December 31, 2009| Leave a Comment »
Blawg Review of the Year
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged blawg review, blawgreview, blogging, funny, odd or interesting on December 30, 2009| Leave a Comment »
Nominations for Blawg Review of the Year are open and will be announced in the New Year. You can find out how to nominate your favourite Blawg Review of 2009 at Blawg Review 244, along with a list of all the 2009 Blawg Reviews (instructions at the bottom).
Surviving a Stepfamily Christmas
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged children, contact, funny, odd or interesting on December 22, 2009| Leave a Comment »
I must be moving up in the world: I haven’t dealt with a single last minute spat over who gets the kids on Christmas Day this year. I had steeled myself for the annual onset of the Christmas Contact frenzy: desperate attempts to shoehorn in urgent hearings, and to persuade a judge to give the judgment of Solomon in a 30 minute directions slot. But the only cases I have dealt with this year have been thought through well in advance and agreed sensibly, usually by saying one parent has Christmas Day and the other Boxing Day, in some cases a split on the day (where parents live nearby).
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There is an interesting and thoughtful piece in The Times today about just this issue: how blended and stepfamilies manage the minefield of Christmas. Christmas is a recipe for fallings out at the best of times but it can be a really tough time for those who are separated or divorced, and for their kids and their wider families.
A Festive Message
Posted in Uncategorized on December 21, 2009| 2 Comments »
I’ve been moderating comments on the Pink Tape for some time (see here also) to ensure that abusive or inappropriate posts are not published by those with little or no respect for myself or readers of Pink Tape. It works pretty well, although its a pain for me to have to individually check each message and it does sometimes mean comments don’t go up instantaneously as I don’t have time to check them due to work commitments. I try to only edit where necessary, but in general I’d rather edit and publish than simply bin an otherwise interesting message because part of it is not publishable.
But I’m making a New Year’s resolution: those of my loyal readers who think that one of the functions of this blog is to make the same point over and over and over again and to make it in an increasingly offensive way (usually without having the courage to publish your real name) will find that your posts are now not published at all because I will block your IP or email address. I feel quite strongly that the internet should be a space where people can air their views confidently and openly, within the confines of common courtesy and the law – but I DO draw the line at personally abusive comments. And in 2010 I do not want to waste any of my precious time reading them – I have better things to do. Don’t confuse me with the big bad system: if you take time to read the blog posts you will see that I am often as critical of as you are – bitching at me is a misdirection of your effort. Upsetting me ain’t gonna change nuttin’.
As ever, you don’t need to agree with me to post comments. I hope that much is obvious from the comments I regularly publish – I cherish our discussions and disagreements. No, this little Christmas message goes out only to the one or two of you who may have forgotten that at the end of the day this is my blog and I retain the editorial control. If you want to be abusive go do it elsewhere on your own blog. Blocking your nasty little messages is my prerogative.
Yours truly
Loo xxx
(AKA Family Laxative)